It’s pretty much impossible these days to totally block out the 1000′s of conflicting ideas/advice/suggestions from Dr’s/parents/grandparents/strangers in the super market on how you should discipline/bath/feed/raise your children. It’s like a war zone and you don’t know if you’re supposed to zig or zag from one minute to the next. Frankly it feels like no matter what you do, you are destined to f*ck up your kids and send them to therapy by the age of 9. Or make them fat, or antisocial, or…..you get the drift. So I say, enough already. And in the essence of attempting to not give a shit any more, here is a list of a few of the things I am guilty of doing that will probably mess up my children. Please mama’s, feel free to add your own-consider it confession for your ‘bad mommy’ moments. Say two Hail Marys and take a shot-you are forgiven.
1-Giving a time out to my son when it’s probably mama who needs to go sit in the corner.
2-Yelling
3-Not playing with my kids 24-7
4-Letting Connor watch TV (this is a big one, I will say 3 Hail Mary’s for it)
5-Not feeding Connor veggies at every meal
6-Snipping at my husband in front of the kids
7-Not diligently brushing Connor’s teeth after every flippen’ meal. WTF
8-Forgetting to change a diaper
9-Asking my son to just f-ing tell me what he wants…when he is still just learning to talk
10-Putting my bawling son in his crib butt-naked b/c I seriously could not take being kicked from the changing table one more time.
11-Not answering Ellie’s cries immediately, every. single. time.
12-Leaving my 4 mth old to entertain herself, a lot.
As I look at these, the do mostly apply to my son, but I am sure Ellie will catch up, just give it time.
Love this post! I can totally relate to putting Connor in his crib without a diaper. The other day, I thought it may be best to start saving for therapist bills now. Kiernan was fussing so bad about taking his clothes off to take a bath that I put him in the bath with all of his clothes on. Afterwards, I was thinking, what kind of psycho puts their kid in a bathtub with all their clothes on? I thought at the time, it was the most logical thing to do.
Forget the Hail Mary’s, I may need a whole Rosary! X is a whole year younger but completely caught up with Connor on the Bad Mommy moments. Let’s see…
there was the time I left him in a colic-induced cry-fest in his crib so I could have my own cry-fest in my closet.
NickJr onDemand is my best friend.
I forget to brush his teeth more often than I remember (he’s only got 4 of ‘em.)
I’ve told him to ‘suck it up and deal’ on many occasions, which I should probably stop before he starts learning to talk.
LOL-I have had MANY cry-fests over the past two years. Most of mine happen in the bathroom. But that’s only because I can’t fit under my bed…And when Ellie came along, forget it. Someone was always crying in my house so usually is it wasn’t me, I would start anyways. If can’t beat ‘em, join ‘em.